To wait upon the Lord is not easy. Sometimes we want to take control over our situations to get answers immediately. We cry out, “Lord! I want to know Your will for my life! Lord, speak to me!” We find ourselves rather obsessed and desperate about discovering God’s will for our lives that we miss the point. We are so focused on getting answers or fixing a problem that we miss God’s will for our lives at the moment. We must understand that in order for us to know His direction for a particular situation we must first of all, fix our eyes on Him and not on the situation. Instead of trying to find solutions that may ruin our testimony or relationship with God, He says, “Be still and know that He is God” (Psalm 46:10). God is a God of order. He will not contradict Himself. As simple as it may sound, that is the will of God. We may struggle to accept this truth in times of confusion or hurt, but eventually God will shed light upon the situation. He wants us to put our hope and security in Him and not on the circumstances. The Bible says, “Do not get drunk with wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit.” Day by day, minute-by-minute, we should empty ourselves so that the Spirit can take over us. He will empower us to see things differently. Andy Stanley, in one of his sermon podcasts, defines debauchery as "an extreme indulgence that leads to a loss of control" and I believe that debauchery can be anything, other than God, that takes control over our hearts. Interestingly before that verse, Paul says, “Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is” (Ephesians 5:17-18). By going straight to God and not towards things that will bait us to lose control, we will receive understanding. By aligning our perspective with His and putting first things first, we will truly understand what God’s will is.
If you want to know God’s direction in a particular situation, hold on tight to His hand not the situation. His will for you is not to fix your problem or get answers now. His will for you is not to run towards things that will take control of your heart. Cease striving. Wait and pursue wisdom. Stay faithful to the Lord and in His time, He will reveal His answers to you.