The minute someone fails to meet your expectations, take a deep breath and say, "She is NOT perfect."
I adamantly thought that I do not seek perfection in people. I thought I was rather patient, kind, and gentle... But when I carefully observed the way I thought about my mistakes and people's, I totally contradict myself.
Are you hard on yourself when you make mistakes?
Are you hard on OTHER people when they make mistakes?
Do you impose your standards on other people, hoping they get on with the "program"?
Do you think negatively when people disappoint your expectations?
It doesn't come naturally to us. Ever since we
were born, when we cry, when we feel uncomfortable, or when we're hungry, we were given
our needs and wants as soon as possible. We were used to that kind of response and as we matured, that egotistic or narcissist tendency hasn't really left us completely.
There's a lot of undoing when it comes to waiting. All eyes are not on us anymore. We need to simply wait for our turn. But when we're in the
process of doing so, we create a certain standard or an expectation which
reality needs to pattern it from.
What a struggle, huh?
Life, change, dreams, ...
they all go through a process... And in the moment of waiting, we're really not
left pitiful in an island, hoping that some ship comes by to save the day
(well, if that's how you view it, then that's a different story)... God has
prepared something for us already but He won't give it to us prematurely. He really
wants to change US more than to speed up the
When the Israelites were in
the desert, they complained more than appreciated. They wanted to go back to
Egypt because they didn't like their food, it was taking forever, and the
travel package they signed up for was quite a disappointment - they didn't even like their tour
guide either. They grumbled in their tents and it was not a pleasant trip to
the land of milk and honey. But don't you think that the complaining spirit is exactly what He needs to
eradicate from us? God knows us. We can't fool Him. He knows our
tendencies, our weaknesses, and our struggles. And just as Max Lucado says,
"Jesus loves you, but he refuses to leave you that way. He wants you
to be just like Jesus," I believe that He wants to change the way we
view life, our situation, ourselves, and people in light of His teachings. He
wants to remove anything that gets in the way of an encounter with Him. But
this is not a formula, don't get me wrong. Just cause we're in that zone,
doesn't mean we've got God all figured out. “His ways are higher than our
ways” and we definitely will not get that all worked out. But take heart, in
this moment of waiting, don’t go chasing after what’s not in front of you. Fix
your eyes on Jesus, get busy, and fill yourself with His presence so that you
won’t feel like you’re just stuck in an island.
What do you do when you experience the most painful thing in your life?
What do you do when you feel your heart is crushed and ripped to the very core?
What do you do when there is no one else to talk to or turn to?
What do you do when you know that you can't fast forward but just let the time pass?
What do you do when you have no one to fight against but yourself?
What do you do when you have thoughts running crazy miles and you just want to cry?
You wait. You pray. You choose happiness. You go to happiness. You pause. You pray again.
It wasn't the easiest time in my life. But it was the most beautiful encounter I had with God. His leading and the sensitivity of my heart to hear His voice made me know that He was for me. At one point, I didn't want the pain to end because I felt Him the closest. I also learned that the most crucial decision lies within myself; I had to choose to fight against sulking, staying stuck, or being immobile. By the grace of God and the Holy Spirit, I fought through and stayed focus.
The past is gone. But I will remember His goodness and His faithfulness and that's all the past will only serve.